Breastfeeding Grief

Not being able to nurse was never something I expected. I thought I did everything right - I had homebirths, nursed on demand, went to La Leche League meetings, ate right, and let the baby sleep with me. But it wasn't enough. After much heartache, I had to supplement both kids with formula. Why should I feel like such a failure? We certainly wouldn't tell a woman who was diabetic that she just wasn't "trying hard enough" to make enough insulin! But we do have that attitude with breastfeeding women. True, some nursing problems are easily corrected. But for a small percentage of the population (about 5%), supply problems are a very real issue.

 

My youngest baby has nearly weaned. and I have mixed feelings of sadness and freedom.
I hope my story is useful for you!

Emma Kolstad Antunes
May 2002